Goodbye resolutions, Hello Goals
Mini 2018 review
I don’t want to dwell too much on 2018. Like most of you (I think), I’m ready to be done with this year. It was full of some major highs and some major lows.
For me, this was my first year losing someone I really love. It was also a year where I saw two new countries, made incredible friendships and moved closer to family and friends.
I finalized my barre certification, am teaching all around Louisville and led my first pop-up fitness class in a public park.
I read more books this year than I have since undergrad, and I’ve cried almost everyday since September 3. I planned my first funeral and mistakingly called it a wedding too many times.
I also planned my second (for my nephew Owen) and third (for my nephew Ellis) baby showers and am counting down the days to meet little Ellis.
After finding out (while waiting to board my plane to Portugal) my cholesterol is 300, I’ve tried to exercise 4-5 times a week and eat oatmeal everyday.
I’m ready to usher in a new year. I’m anticipating this clean slate to make new memories and change old habits. I’m ready to extract the ideas from my brain, plant them, nourish them and watch them grow. I’m tired of just keeping them in my head.
Goals > Resolutions
While Chris and I were in Portugal, we spent an evening building our 2019 plan. We decided to get rid of the word “resolution” and replace it with “goal” this year. Something about it seems so much more attainable and less intimidating. We even create quarterly outputs to help us achieve our overarching goals. For the past three years, we’ve built our yearly plans in Trello, which I highly recommend. We have individual goals and couples goals. It’s a really fun exercise that manifests fresh ideas. We learn about each other and collaborate on ensuring we can reach our joint and individual goals together.
We begin by reviewing our goals from 2018. Anything that we obtain, we check-off and congratulate ourselves over cheers and wine. Then we review the goals we didn’t obtain and decide if we want to try again this year or if we have grown away from that goal. It’s important to show yourself grace during this step. It’s also incredible to see how much your desires can change in merely one year.
After transferring 2018 goals to 2019, we tackle our couples goals first, talking about ways we want to improve and dreams we want to achieve. Our goals usually fall under the categories of Finance, Education, Projects and Relationship Growth. It’s important that every idea is accepted and discussed during this time. All ideas are good ideas. Then we can decide together whether we want to put it on our list and what steps we need to complete to achieve that goal. This is where we break down goals into actionable steps. Then we place timeframes on these steps, generally on a quarterly basis.
After we feel satisfied with our 2019 Couples Goals, we move on to our individual goals. We take turns talking about an individual goal, and sometimes we even share a goal (Learning Spanish). We brainstorm and dream together, which is a really special time to bond and grow.
After we have all our goals set, we review the board one final time and resolve to hold each other accountable and check-in together on a quarterly basis. This year after completing this step, we finished our glass of wine and walked down to our hotel room to hear the ocean crash against the shore and fall asleep on a tiny island in the middle of the Atlantic Ocean.
Meghan’s 2019 Goals
As a further accountability measure to myself (b/c I sure need it), I want to share my personal goals with you. The ones marked with (couple) are goals Chris and I share.
So here are my 2019 Goals:
- Write at least on blog post per week
- Grow Barre with Meghan’s presence: online by building out my YouTube channel and in-person by becoming involved in the Louisville fitness community and hosting more pop-up classes
- Develop, start and deliver on Louisville-based podcast (couple)
- Read one book a month, one of which is a classic
- Reduce cholesterol levels to below 200
- Start a meditation habit
- Exercise 5x a week
- Eat a heart-healthy diet
- Start a girl-empowering group
- Be consistent with The Life Jar
- Work to become conversationally fluent in Spanish (couple)
- Go to a counselor (couple)
- Invest at least two nights a week in no tv time (couple)
- Take two out-of-the USA trips (couple)
- Reduce college debt by 1/2 (couple)
I’m super curious to know, do you make New Year Resolutions or goals? If you do, please share the one you are most excited about in the comments below. I would love to cheer you on. Finally, if you have any questions about my resolution creation process, let me know below, and if you have a process of your own, I’d love to hear all about it.
Happy New Year! May 2019 be the best yet!