I Set Fire to the Fear
On Tuesday night I almost said no to a complimentary box of matches from our Valentine’s Day restaurant. I’m so glad I said yes to the matches because they helped me burn away one of my biggest fears.
Yesterday’s Skinny Dip Society challenge harnessed something I think we all suffer from far too regularly. We all hear it – that negative self-talk. It weasels its way into the folds of the brain and seems to rear its head anytime we feel successful or confident.
I think we all hear similar versions of it, but it speaks to our individual fears. It seems to say “Hey, you’re not enough.” “Why are you special?” “Who will listen to you?” “You aren’t creative.” You aren’t living your purpose.” “You don’t know enough to do that.” It all boils down to not being enough and not pursing our purpose.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” –
Hey friends, let’s try to put an end to this (or at least make a conscious effort to muzzle the negativity). It’s not helping us. It literally has no point except to hold us back from achieving great things. So that’s why we burn it. We burn it to release it from our thoughts, to release ourselves from the chains of fear that hold us down and hold us back from our potential.
When I sat down to ponder the negative thoughts I hear, they all had a theme – mediocrity. I’m afraid of just being regular. I’m afraid of never doing anything special or extraordinary. I wonder if my words are my own, if they are interesting or dull.
I’m tired of letting it hold the fear of mediocrity hold me back, so I wrote that “MEDIOCRITY” on a post-it note. I transcribed it slowly, taking time to meditate on what it how it affects me and how life would be different if it didn’t. The forthcoming joy of setting it ablaze could barely be contained. When I finished curling that final line of the “y”, I grabbed my matches and lit one. Placing it against the left corner of the paper, I watched that beautiful flame grow. It turned the yellow piece of paper into brittle black nothing, and with that, my fear disappeared.
We are all on this journey together. We are all beautiful humans who struggle every day. Let’s be easy on each other. Let’s show compassion and grace. Let’s encourage each other and help erase that negative voice inside each of us. The more positivity we can put into the world, the better it will be.
As long as we are pursuing our path and are true to ourselves, that’s what really counts. So let’s celebrate each other today and every day!